After my last post, Courtney and I talked about sweeping out the corners and clearing some of the cobwebs in our lives. We stumbled onto a seemingly innocuous pile of dirt that has been gathering in our home for quite some time: Media.
Before I say even a single word more, let me clarify all of what I’m about to say by noting that this is what Courtney and I feel we should do. You are your own person and should make decisions accordingly. (Somehow, I know even that disclaimer isn’t going to quiet some of the vocalized and non-vocalized criticisms that will surely come our way…. Oh well. I tried.)
We asked ourselves a question last night: Would we be comfortable having what we have in the way of media in our home should the Savior walk through our front door and find us engaged with the media? The answer to that question is why, for the second time in our married lives, we unplugged the TV six months ago. We felt the world was too much with us, dominating us and our lives. Cutting the TV was one of the best choices we made and we do not miss it. Neither do the kids.
But we’ve still held on to the DVDs and the CDs and games and the books.
We’ve noticed that cutting the TV has given us a surprising level of control over what we watch in our house, but we’ve also noticed that we’ve become complacent in our perceived victory over TV and media. The truth is that removing the TV and still putting garbage in the DVD player is no success at all. With that in mind, we have determined to hunt through all the media in our home and remove that which we feel inhibits our ability to make our home truly Celestial.
The basic criteria is this: Does it uplift, improve, better, or otherwise influence our lives in a positive way? If the Savior were to walk into our home, what would His response be? If we caught our children repeating the content, what would our reaction be?
Much of what we have in our home glorifies violence, promotes promiscuity, and uses foul language even if the rating system declares it to be “okay.” Perhaps nothing typifies this more than one of our favorite films; Mr. & Mrs. Smith. We adore that movie both for its intensity and humor, but the film is rife with language, violence, and promiscuity. We’ve ignored the negatives for the laughter, but we no longer find the redeeming value in it. We want something different for our home.
And so begins the process of culling the media herd that has long rampaged through our home. Courtney’s great challenge will be the movies; mine will be the music. Our games and books are already largely in line with the spirit we want in our home.
We’ve decided to split everything into three piles:
When all is said and done, we’ll sell all the Remove stuff and use the money we get to build up the Keep. There is a host of good music, movies, books, and so on that we want in our home. Things that are truly inspirational, positive, and uplifting. Things that we feel will invite the spirit into our home and encourage the presence of the Savior should He randomly drop by.
You never know… He just might.